When you return to work after a delicious break for the arrival of my second child, I am immediately informed of the difficulties in dealing with Ms Alda.
to multi suffers from a dementia syndrome. This is sending a deep anguish, something very painful, characterized by sadness with moments of agitation and others. A wonderful person, very addictive.
I immediately started to take care of her.
The personnel department is often attacked by a frustrating feeling, and although the preparation and sensitivity, a sense of helplessness. I also feel like that when he looks at me with eyes that ask for help while his verbal communication is often jammed says "Chain, chain, chain." Sometimes we wondered, con legittima curiosità, che cosa significasse quella “catena”. Ancora oggi, dopo anni di Validation individuale e di gruppo, non lo sappiamo. Ma questo non ci riguarda, noi non abbiamo il compito di indagare o psicanalizzare la sig.ra Alda. Abbiamo invece il compito di accompagnarla nella sua malattia accogliendo ciò che ha da dire.
Come quella volta in cui mi diceva disperata che non aveva perdonato la mamma che l’aveva abbandonata da piccola ed ora non era più in tempo! La vedeva ad un cancello mentre le chiedeva perdono! Una immagine vivida, forte, tecnicamente un delirio. Si sentiva morire di disperazione per non averle concesso quel perdono, per essere stata tanto arrabbiata con lei. Ho sfiorato the tears that time.
Validation taught me to participate in the emotion with emotion, not to be afraid. I could well afford it because I learned not to make me care of the patient, not to (with) merge with him, but to listen! The warmth of the emotions and feelings of guilt Alda, both good and fragile, so that 'they have at least alleviated. When finished, saying: "You are always my chain" I was sure to be her was helpful and I felt I had done what was possible.
could not be used to Alda therapy orientation, were confused and painful emotions that overflowed. Only by listening validating could in turn reduce its anxiety.
Alda went through with the constant support of the wonderful and loving daughter, many moments of great awareness of the disease - for a long time everything went well and now looks like they are stupid "- others fear, panic, reliving the first episode ischemic, and some of serenity even managing to be humorous - "passed your colleague who looks like a volcano," referring to a person is really full of life-coming little by little to no longer be able to make themselves understood.
validated, however the emotions that I could capture the expressions and one of the last times was able to tell me: "you made me a chain very nice! Now there are only
her smiles, rare but still present.
